Lesson 3: Muscle Draw Along

Fighting for Something Else Now

A Word From Jeanetta

Hi Love,

I am one of the most competitive people I know—besides my husband. I love to win. Growing up, I was the queen of the spoons card game. But something changed around the age of 13. I stopped showing I wanted to win. I got scared to let anyone see how badly I wanted something.

That was when I started learning the same horrid lesson so many girls are taught: showing emotions can be dangerous. My brain decided that the only way to survive and keep my freedom was to label expressing emotions as weakness. So, I shut it all down. I hated being around women who cried too much, and I hated myself even more when I couldn’t stop the tears from falling whenever my dad had a serious conversation with me.

That’s when the belief crept in: I’m a loser and will never be enough.

That belief stayed with me, wrapping itself tightly around my identity. Through high school and into my late twenties, I settled for average, believing that was all I could ever be. I let others define me, tell me who I should be, and in the process, I lost my voice completely.

The woman I am today didn’t emerge until I was willing to fight like hell for her existence.

And here’s what I’ve learned: those old, limiting beliefs we carry—they’ve been holding us back for far too long. They’re like layers of armor we’ve outgrown, forged by a younger version of ourselves who was just trying to survive. My belief that expressing emotions made me weak? That armor protected me once. It kept me “safe” from the vulnerability of being seen.

But safety isn’t the same as freedom.

So, to the parts of me that carried those beliefs, I say: Thank you for keeping me alive. You can rest now. We can fight for something else now.

And here’s where the magic begins. As we shed those old beliefs, we start to uncover the wild woman who’s been underneath it all. The one who knows how to feel deeply, love fiercely, and take up space unapologetically.

But let me warn you: shedding those beliefs might feel like setting off an alarm in your nervous system. Those beliefs have been guarding you for so long that their loss can feel like a threat. You might feel a sense of panic or resistance when you start to question them. That’s okay. It’s just your body doing its job, trying to protect you.

When that alarm goes off, remind yourself: I’m safe. This is not danger—it’s growth. Take a deep breath and whisper to your nervous system, We’re not fighting to survive anymore. We’re fighting to live.

Every time you let go of a belief that no longer serves you, you make room for more of your true self to step forward. The wild woman within you isn’t afraid to feel, to cry, to want, to fight, to love. She’s been waiting for you, and she’s ready to come alive.

With Love,