What if the reason isn’t actually the reason?

A Word From Jeanetta

Hi Love,

What if the reason isn’t actually the reason?

I think about this a lot when I’m in pain. When my left hip starts aching, my first instinct is to fix the left hip. But when I start self-assessing, I almost always realize—it’s not my left hip that’s the problem. It’s the weakness in my right.

And isn’t that how it always goes?

We think the thing in front of us is the issue. The argument. The exhaustion. The frustration. The ache. But if we really look—if we dig deeper—we often find that the root of it is somewhere else entirely.

We are so deeply connected.

We are an intricate weaving of muscles, fascia, nerves, and connective tissue, sending electrical signals that we feel in the body but express through emotions. Pain isn’t just pain—it’s communication. It’s the body whispering, nudging, asking us to look deeper.

So what if, instead of rushing to fix what hurts, we paused? What if we asked—what else is going on?

Maybe the pain in your hip isn’t about your hip.
Maybe the stress in your shoulders isn’t about your shoulders.
Maybe the frustration you feel isn’t really about this moment, but about something unspoken, something waiting to be seen.

You are complex. Your pain is complex. But your body knows the way.

So today, love, I invite you to listen. To get curious. To look beyond the obvious and ask—what is this really about?

Because when we stop chasing surface-level fixes, we start healing from the root.

With love,

IN THIS LESSON

We explore two of the most common (yet often unspoken) reasons women seek pelvic floor support: incontinence and prolapse. You’ll learn what they are, why they happen, and how to begin supporting your body through awareness, breath, and gentle release work—no shame, just tools and understanding.

Key Concepts

  • Continence = the ability to control bladder and bowel function

  • Incontinence = the loss of that control—leaking urine or struggling to release bowels

  • Stress incontinence occurs when increased pressure (like sneezing or jumping) overwhelms a tight or weak pelvic floor

  • Urge incontinence is when the bladder signals urgency too early or too often

  • Prolapse = when pelvic organs (bladder, uterus, rectum) descend into the vaginal canal due to weakened tissues

  • Your bladder is a muscle—it can be retrained just like any other part of your body

Key Takeaways

  • Tension isn’t strength—learning to relax your pelvic floor is just as important as learning to engage it

  • Use soft tissue release tools like a tennis or squishy ball to massage and soften your perineum and surrounding muscles

  • For stress incontinence, practice breath-led pelvic floor expansion and release, not just lifting

  • For urge incontinence, try lengthening time between bathroom visits to retrain urgency signals

  • For prolapse, prioritize gentle lifting exercises (like “elevators”) and avoid over-bracing or bearing down

  • Prolapse may require medical intervention—partner with a provider if you have symptoms

  • Everything in this course supports pelvic floor healing—you don’t need to add more, just stay consistent and aware

Reflection & Next Steps

  • Try sitting on a tennis ball for 2–5 minutes to explore softening tension around the perineum or anus

  • Notice if you do “just in case” peeing—try extending time between bathroom trips by 15–30 minutes

  • Revisit the elevators practice: Can you inhale to soften, then exhale to gently lift without gripping your glutes?

  • Pay attention to bladder cues: Are they physical or habitual? Practice sending calm messages to your nervous system

  • Journal: What symptoms (if any) do you notice? Are there patterns that point to stress or urge incontinence?

  • Reminder: You are not broken. You are learning to listen, adapt, and support your body with love

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